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[The Ruling of Inclination and Love for a Man and Aversion to Another without Any Cause]

Fatwa No: 24709
Date: 2026/05/21
Category: Miscellaneous Benefits
Answered by: Al-Sayyid Al-Allamah Al-Hujjah Muhammad ibn ‘Abdullah Awad al-Mu’ayyidi May Allah preserve him
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The Question

Question: A man finds in his heart love and inclination toward a man, while he finds in his heart aversion and repulsion from another man, for no apparent reason in the two men, despite the two men being equal in the outward of faith—of maintaining the prayers and avoiding the forbidden and… etc. So what is the ruling in that?

The Answer

The answer: The legally responsible is not taken to account for what has occurred of that in his heart; and what is obligatory upon the legally responsible in the like of that is that he does not show upon his tongue or his limbs any evidence of that dislike, and that he deal with the believer whom he dislikes with a good dealing, and that he does not diminish him from what is obligatory upon the Muslim for the Muslim of rights. And perhaps the reason for the occurrence of aversion from some believers returns to the very nature of the believer, for there may be in the believer a heedlessness such that he does not notice, with it, what annoys his brothers and his companions from the believers, so he proceeds in what annoys them of sayings and actions without awareness from him that that annoys them and disturbs them; and that repeats in him and does not stop, and if he is reminded he does not become mindful— and there is no doubt that the like of that repels them from him and causes their dislike of him.
- As for the alert, awake believer: then by his intelligence and alertness he avoids what repels his companions and what disturbs them, and he does not bring from sayings and actions except what is pleasant for them; so that causes the inclination of their hearts toward him and their love for him.
And the first man is named “al-thaqīl (the heavy)” in the usage of the experts of language, and the second is named “al-khafīf (the light).”
And the heavy is excused with Allah: no sin reaches him in what issues from him of bothering people and bringing constriction upon them; because he is not intending that; rather, he does not even know that he causes harm to people and brings constriction upon them at all—even if people inform him of that, he does not believe.
- And I have read that if the heavy comes to know and realize that he is heavy upon his companion or the experts of his sitting, then he is not heavy.

Source: Min Thimār al-ʿIlm wa al-Ḥikmah vol.3